Jealousy is not directed at the object of jealousy. Attacks of a jealous object on a desired object mean, in fact, his recognition of noncompetitiveness, his refusal from all kinds of rivalry (love me as I am) and shifting responsibility for my failures or inability to change to this object
Accordingly, the first rule: if you want to get rid of jealousy, then work on your self-esteem, increase self-confidence. Change for the better
Steps to be taken to get rid of jealousy
Learn to understand your emotions. When you begin to feel jealous, ask yourself: is it more based on fear or anger and why? If you have a sense of anxiety, unpleasant sensations in the abdomen - then this is most likely fear; If you have your shoulders clenched and your teeth clenched, then this is anger. Perhaps you feel both. Be sure to learn to get rid of these sensations with the help of relaxation techniques and breathing exercises
Stop putting the blame on the partner. Do not say: "You should not have done this." It is necessary to say: "I was hurt by this situation." This will open the way to constructive dialogue
Understand what your jealousy can teach you. Jealousy gives an understanding of what is important to you and what you are afraid to lose, and makes you take constructive steps
Change any false beliefs that cause jealousy. Jealousy, like many other emotions, does not give birth to the event as such, but our attitude to it, the perception of what happened. If the husband is late for work, one woman will experience jealousy, the other - an alarm ("maybe something happened"), and the third - the joy ("stayed overtime, means, will earn more money"). The event is one, and the emotions are different
Work on your own happiness, become successful, smart and beautiful. And you will be surprised to note that jealousy, pain and anger will gradually leave your soul
Пока вы работаете над преодолением ревности, измените свое поведениеи ведите себя как уверенная женщина, удалите с лица маску ревнивицы. Поверьте, скоро маска спокойствия и уверенности станет естественной для вас и изменит всю вашу жизнь к лучшему
Make her husband a little jealous of you, making a peppery relationship. But do not overdo it, because, as H. Menken correctly noted, "to keep your husband, make him a little jealous; to lose her husband, make him jealous a little more
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